Freud for Men; Which of His Lessons Still Work in Therapy?

Much of Freud's theory is gone, but his method still passes randomised trials. Four lessons that matter most for men.
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The technique Freud built still works in the consulting room, and randomised trials now stand behind it.

This article is presented by Dr. Saeed Behckam, clinical psychologist and sex therapist practicing in Iran (Tehran) and Canada (Toronto, Richmond Hill & Vancouver), for the readers of Behckam.com.

What a Freud-derived approach achieves: the evidence first

Short-term psychodynamic psychotherapy, individual and capped at 40 hours, has been tested in randomised trials and outperforms control conditions on general symptoms, anxiety, depression, interpersonal problems and social adjustment in the short and medium term. The Cochrane review did not report results by sex.

The strongest single test is a Cochrane systematic review by Abbass and colleagues, published in 2014. It pooled 33 randomised controlled trials with 2,173 participants, all in short-term psychodynamic psychotherapy of 40 hours or fewer, individual format, for common mental disorders. Except for somatic measures in the short term, every outcome category improved significantly more in the treatment group than in controls: general symptoms, anxiety, depression, interpersonal problems and social adjustment. Effect sizes grew larger at long-term follow-up.

Lindqvist and colleagues reported in Internet Interventions in 2026 a randomised study of 2,477 Swedish adults with self-reported depression or anxiety symptoms, assigned to an internet-delivered affect-focused psychodynamic programme, an internet-delivered structured skills-based programme, or a waiting list. Both active programmes reduced depression and anxiety symptoms more than the waiting list, with between-group effect sizes from 0.38 to 0.65, and the gains were stable across a 24-month follow-up. The 2 active programmes did not differ, and 16 weeks was no better than 8 weeks. Adherence was low: participants completed fewer than half the modules on average, and many dropped out of follow-up.

Couple in bed at dawn having an honest conversation — unconscious relationship patterns
A pattern never put into words gets acted out with whoever is available.

Lesson 1 and 2: what you do not know decides, and what is not remembered is repeated

Two lessons from 1915 and 1914 remain usable. The first: most of what drives behaviour sits outside awareness, so a man who says he does not know why he said that is reporting accurately rather than evading. The second: what cannot be remembered gets acted out instead.

In The Unconscious (1915), Freud showed that much of mental life stays outside awareness and cannot be inspected directly by the person holding it.

In my consulting room the man whose 3 relationships ended the same way is rarely unlucky; he is performing something he has never put into words, and the moment he can say it is the moment the treatment actually begins. Remembering, Repeating and Working-Through (1914), Freud showed what happens when a memory cannot be recalled. It is acted out instead, in the present, with whoever is available. Treatment converts the enactment back into something that can be said.

Lesson 3 and 4: defence is a translation, and transference is why you use your father’s tone with your wife

Defences are not obstacles to be dismantled; they are translations of an inner conflict the person cannot yet state, and they tell the clinician where that conflict sits. Transference is the older template replayed with a partner and with the therapist, which makes it both visible and usable.

Building on Freud’s finding in The Ego and the Id (1923) that the ego’s defences themselves operate unconsciously, the defence is information about an unresolved conflict, not an enemy of the treatment. The man who goes cold when his partner asks a plain question is not being difficult for its own sake; the coldness marks the place where something unsayable sits.

Relational templates formed earlier are replayed with a partner and, in treatment, with the therapist, and because both are present in the room they can be observed rather than merely reported. For a man who reports that each relationship ends in the same tension, this replay is usually the most usable entry point available.

Male client in a psychotherapy session with a psychologist — Freud lessons for men
What Freud gave therapy is his theory and his method: the pattern, not the symptom.

Why do men come late, and which of Freud’s insights help them most?

Men arrive later because masculine norms make asking for help costly: stronger endorsement of traditional masculinity is correlated with more negative help-seeking attitudes and more self-stigma.

The clearest evidence concerns attitudes rather than attendance. Üzümçeker, in the International Journal of Psychology in 2025, pooled 35 samples and found that stronger endorsement of traditional masculinity correlated with more negative attitudes toward seeking psychological help at r = -0.379, and with higher self-stigma at r = 0.351; gender-role conflict correlated with negative attitudes at r = -0.211 and with self-stigma at r = 0.300. Country and sample type did not change these links. The design is correlational and measures attitudes, not visits.

My position is that among Freud’s most valuable legacies is his method, listening for the pattern instead of the symptom, and that is exactly what the modern trials are measuring.

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Frequently Asked Questions — Behckam.com

Does psychodynamic therapy have a scientific basis?

Yes. A Cochrane systematic review by Abbass and colleagues in 2014 pooled 33 randomised controlled trials with 2,173 participants and found short-term psychodynamic psychotherapy outperforming controls on general symptoms, anxiety, depression, interpersonal problems and social adjustment.

How does it differ from short structured programmes?

In the 2026 trial by Lindqvist and colleagues of 2,477 Swedish adults with depression or anxiety symptoms, both the affect-focused psychodynamic programme and the structured skills-based programme beat the waiting list, with effect sizes from 0.38 to 0.65, and did not differ from each other.

Why is this discussed separately for men?

Because men seek help later and less often. In a 2025 meta-analysis across 35 samples, stronger endorsement of traditional masculinity correlated with more negative attitudes toward seeking psychological help (r = -0.379) and with higher self-stigma (r = 0.351). Naming the pattern early is what shortens that delay.

Which of Freud’s insights matter most in therapy today?

His theory and his method together: listening for the repeating pattern rather than the single symptom.

Conclusion

Freud’s theory and his method both remain alive in the consulting room. A Cochrane review of 33 randomised controlled trials with 2,173 participants found short-term psychodynamic psychotherapy outperforming control conditions on every measured outcome except short-term somatic symptoms, and a 2026 trial of 2,477 Swedish adults found 2 internet-delivered programmes reducing depression and anxiety symptoms more than a waiting list. A meta-analysis across 35 samples links traditional masculinity to reluctance to seek help at r = -0.379. Men who learn to name the pattern instead of the incident are doing exactly what Freud’s method asks of them: they are speaking.

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References

Retrieved from PubMed, U.S. National Library of Medicine:

Abbass AA, Kisely SR, Town JM, et al. Short-term psychodynamic psychotherapies for common mental disorders. Cochrane Database Syst Rev. 2014;2014(7):CD004687. PMID: 24984083. DOI: 10.1002/14651858.CD004687.pub4

Lindqvist K, Mechler J, Hlynsson JI, Andersson G, Carlbring P. Internet-delivered unguided psychodynamic vs. cognitive behavior therapy for anxiety and depression symptoms: A large, full factorial randomized controlled trial on treatment length and peer support. Internet Interv. 2026;45:100980. PMID: 42633284. DOI: 10.1016/j.invent.2026.100980

Üzümçeker E. Traditional Masculinity and Men’s Psychological Help-Seeking: A Meta-Analysis. Int J Psychol. 2025;60(2):e70031. PMID: 40038563. DOI: 10.1002/ijop.70031

Freud S. (1914). Remembering, Repeating and Working-Through. Standard Edition, Vol. XII, pp. 145-156. London: Hogarth Press.

Freud S. (1915). The Unconscious. Standard Edition, Vol. XIV, pp. 159-215. London: Hogarth Press.

Freud S. (1923). The Ego and the Id. Standard Edition, Vol. XIX, pp. 1-66. London: Hogarth Press.

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